Late last October, we spent a very quick weekend camping with some friends. We all needed a little break from our everyday lives, and I really needed a couple of nights away to refresh a bit as we were dealing with the hard situation of slowly losing my sweet cousin. These long-time friends gladly joined us, as they had just purchased a brand new fifth wheel, and we shared their happiness as they took their new trailer on an inaugural trip with us.
Hubby worked with this man for thirty years, and they were good friends. Sadly, we just lost this dear friend to a tragic accident. One day, this friend was at work with Hubby, and the next day, he was gone. He did not survive but a few brief minutes after the horrible crash.
Over three decades, this friend and Hubby grew very close. They had a lot in common and helped and supported each other in ways other friends could not at times. He and his wife were looking forward to their retirement years very soon, and they were especially looking forward to camping regularly with family and friends and even meeting new people on the road. We were looking forward to being a part of that with them in coming years, too.
My heart is truly breaking following this tragic news that we received while on a drive around sunset with the dogs in the car. Hubby completely broke down in tears, and it was all I could do to keep some composure myself to try to comfort him. I drove us home as he wept and called other friends to share the sad news, and I remember seeing one of the most beautiful sunsets I’ve seen in some time as I drove.
We memorialized and buried our friend, along with many others who loved him. He ended his life well, after many years of heartache, and for that healing, I am very grateful today. He will most definitely be missed. So many times in situations like this, I struggle to see how his family will go on without him, but I also know that in every situation I’ve known in the past, they always find a way, even though it is seldom easy for them.
I’m sure I will remember our friend every time we revisit the places we camped with him and his wife and enjoyed their company in some beautiful scenic spots, and I hope that over time, I can remember in gratitude and not in sadness.
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
– Marcel Proust
The photos shared in today’s post are from our last trip with our friends back in October, a trip that I remember so fondly. We had a great time acquainting them with this particular park a little more, and these photos represent some memorable moments we shared together. It was a lovely time enjoying good friends, beautiful scenery and more than a few much needed laughs. We also loaned him an extra HDMI cable to use, since he forgot to buy one, and Hubby had great fun teasing him about it.
I am feeling fairly guilty right now as I mourn the fact that this is the fifth loved one we have lost in the past fifteen months. We lost three family members and a good friend last year, and now we’ve lost another friend. The more I think about being a little resentful of this fact, the more guilty I feel. Perhaps it is time to quit looking at death in this way and start being more grateful for the blessing of having these people in my life for the time they were here. As we grow older, we will no doubt continue to lose loved ones like this, and I don’t want the pity party to only grow within me.
This is a very hard loss for many of us, and if you are a praying person, please say a prayer for his family and friends.