In my long, overdue update yesterday, I failed to share one more notable thing that I want to have “on the record” here. One of the last duties I had to take care of as the executor of my mother’s estate was the final distribution of her jewelry that had not been distributed while she was still alive. On the advice of the lawyer, I held off making this final distribution until everything else was settled, and that was good advice.
I split the remaining jewelry with my sister, with the approval of my sister-in-law. This was the right thing to do, since there really was not much jewelry to split anyway, and I had everything appraised early on so that I could start thinking about the best way to split it between us. After closing the rent house purchase in May, I then took all of the jewelry to a good jeweler here and had him check everything out to see if anything needed to be repaired before distributing it, as I planned to give my sister our mother’s wedding ring with the one larger diamond. Fortunately, all of the prongs were in good shape, and I then gave my sister her share of mom’s jewelry in early June about the time that mom would have celebrated her 94th birthday.
With the bulk of the estate matters now done, I took my mother’s diamond ring guard and my own 20th anniversary ring back to the jeweler to see if he could design a custom ring for me. I never had a mother’s ring, and even though I’m really not a big jewelry gal, this was a ring that I always wanted. I cannot say enough nice things about this jeweler and the entire process of designing a custom ring, too.
While it was still a little hard to even take the step to do the ring, the jeweler and his associate both worked with me over two separate visits to come up with a ring design that I absolutely adore.
If this is not a real mother’s ring, I don’t know what is. One row of diamonds is from my mother’s wedding ring guard, which actually belong to my father’s mother, and the other row of diamonds is from my own 20th anniversary ring and had several diamonds that needed to be repronged anyway. The ruby is my daughter’s birthstone, and the garnet is my son’s birthstone. While I think this is actually a pretty good photo of the ring, taken with my new 50mm prime lens, I think it is even prettier in person. I also had four little diamonds left over, too. If I lose any diamonds from the ring at some point, I will have some genuine replacements ready to go.
I picked the ring up a few days ago, and I bawled like a baby when they showed it to me. It bordered on being one of those “ugly” cries, but fortunately, I was the only customer in the store at the time. Once again, they were just so nice and understanding about the whole process, and it is a true pleasure to do business with great folks such as these. This will not be a ring that I will wear every day, for sure, but I will certainly love wearing it when I decide to do so.
The jeweler also gave a me a free appraisal of the ring for insurance purposes. I traded-in the gold from the two existing rings and purchased the birthstones new. The gold trade-in also helped to defray the cost of the ring just a bit. I asked him about using the existing gold in the new ring, but he said that he much preferred to use new gold instead. I’m glad that he talked me into that, as I just truly love the look of this ring, and even the design of it is special to me, as if my mother and I “have our arms” around both of the kids.
So, there you have it – my special ring at long last. I just wish my mother could see it, too.