Safe Drinking Levels

As if losing my mother and hubby’s brother since the first of the year has not been enough, we are now in a crisis situation with my younger cousin who is in ICU in a hospital hours away from any family.  I got the call from her roommate a week ago today and immediately tore out in my car to the hospital three hours away.  I spent most of last week with her, too.  Since that day, she has mostly gone downhill fast, but right now, she is somewhat stable while remaining in critical condition.

My sweet and troubled cousin is almost twenty years younger than I am.  We just learned that she is very likely an alcoholic, just like so many other relatives in our family, including her own father who died a few years ago.  At age 40, her liver is basically shot from drinking, and we are not sure if she will survive or not.  She is on life support at this time on a ventilator and a feeding tube to see if her body can recover and throw off all the fluid and toxins that have now built up to a most critical level.  Believe me when I tell you that this all hit quite suddenly, with only a slight advance notice that there was an issue with her liver.  Her liver decided to revolt on her, and she will be fortunate if she survives now.

I’m not sharing this post today for anyone in particular but just tossing it out for anyone that may be directed to read it today or in the future, especially ladies of any age that drink alcohol every day.  Are you aware of the safe amount of alcohol that you can drink every day?  Are you aware that daily consumption of equal amounts of alcohol between men and women will more greatly impact the woman?  That is a well-documented fact.

Here is what the CDC recommendations are concerning daily alcohol, and my cousin’s ER doctor reiterated the same.  There is a *very good reason* why this guideline is out there, folks.  Break this recommendation at your own peril, especially if you are a woman.  Don’t think that you are that “special” person that can safely drink more than this amount.  I’ve heard that way too often, believe me.  By the time you may see any physical issues, much of your liver function may already be gone.

What does moderate drinking mean?
According to the Dietary Guidelines for Americans,1 moderate alcohol consumption is defined as having up to 1 drink per day for women and up to 2 drinks per day for men. This definition is referring to the amount consumed on any single day and is not intended as an average over several days. The Dietary Guidelines also state that it is not recommended that anyone begin drinking or drink more frequently on the basis of potential health benefits because moderate alcohol intake also is associated with increased risk of breast cancer, violence, drowning, and injuries from falls and motor vehicle crashes.

Frankly, I’m so sick of seeing people I love destroying themselves with alcohol.  To date, they have all been a little older than my cousin, though.  I understand that alcoholism is a disease, but it is also worth noting that you can still destroy your liver and not be an alcoholic.

Here is the link to the CDC website, and I hope that everyone that reads this post today will click that link and read this important information.  If it helps one person today to make the decision to make a change for the better, it was worth the brief amount of time it took me to share it.

If you are in a crisis situation as far as your drinking, get medical help immediately if you need it.   If there is not a medical issue yet, get into Alcoholics Anonymous or a similar faith-based program, such as Celebrate Recovery, and get a sponsor as soon as you can.  Don’t delay.  Do it now.  Take the step.  I’ve seen others do it with great success, and you can do it, too.  Go to a meeting every day for three months, no exceptions.  You can find more information and find meetings near you on their national website at  Whether you realize it or not, you have people in your life that love and care deeply about you that will be there for you.  Quit pushing them away and make some good decisions.  There are people who can and will help you, and it may save your life.

Just over a week ago, my cousin was at work and living a pretty normal life.  Today she is on life-support in ICU.

Ask. For. Help. Now. – Not. Later.

Please pray for my cousin, too.  It may be too late for her.


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My Tribute

I took this photo last weekend while we were on retreat in the mountains of New Mexico, but as I looked at it more closely this morning while watching the 9/11 remembrances on the morning news, I realized that this photo represents so well the healing that has occurred, at least for me, since the tragedy of 9/11/01.

The darkness is still seen in the background, as well as the “shadows” of what was, but literally hundreds of points of light shine through that darkness to illuminate a single tall vine that is new growth in the foreground.  For me, those points of light represent the lives of those lost that day and the hope that could not be destroyed.  Every little detail of the healthy vine can been seen so well as it reflects the light that is piercing through the darkness beyond, and it was illuminated so brightly that I felt compelled to capture it in a photo.

This brings to mind a special verse for me today, and may it inspire us all to continue to fight the good fight in our own lives, know whose we are, know how much we are loved, and be a shining light of truth and grace to others in our lives every day.  Today, I am grateful for this special little message to help me to continue to move forward as I remember the sacrifices and the exquisite pain that many are experiencing today.

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

— John 15:5



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My New Ring

In my long, overdue update yesterday, I failed to share one more notable thing that I want to have “on the record” here.  One of the last duties I had to take care of as the executor of my mother’s estate was the final distribution of her jewelry that had not been distributed while she was still alive.  On the advice of the lawyer, I held off making this final distribution until everything else was settled, and that was good advice.

I split the remaining jewelry with my sister, with the approval of my sister-in-law.  This was the right thing to do, since there really was not much jewelry to split anyway, and I had everything appraised early on so that I could start thinking about the best way to split it between us.  After closing the rent house purchase in May, I then took all of the jewelry to a good jeweler here and had him check everything out to see if anything needed to be repaired before distributing it, as I planned to give my sister our mother’s wedding ring with the one larger diamond.  Fortunately, all of the prongs were in good shape, and I then gave my sister her share of mom’s jewelry in early June about the time that mom would have celebrated her 94th birthday.

With the bulk of the estate matters now done, I took my mother’s diamond ring guard and my own 20th anniversary ring back to the jeweler to see if he could design a custom ring for me.  I never had a mother’s ring, and even though I’m really not a big jewelry gal, this was a ring that I always wanted.  I cannot say enough nice things about this jeweler and the entire process of designing a custom ring, too.

While it was still a little hard to even take the step to do the ring, the jeweler and his associate both worked with me over two separate visits to come up with a ring design that I absolutely adore.


My new mother’s ring – click to see it larger (please)

If this is not a real mother’s ring, I don’t know what is.  One row of diamonds is from my mother’s wedding ring guard, which actually belong to my father’s mother, and the other row of diamonds is from my own 20th anniversary ring and had several diamonds that needed to be repronged anyway.  The ruby is my daughter’s birthstone, and the garnet is my son’s birthstone.  While I think this is actually a pretty good photo of the ring, taken with my new 50mm prime lens, I think it is even prettier in person.  I also had four little diamonds left over, too.  If I lose any diamonds from the ring at some point, I will have some genuine replacements ready to go.

I picked the ring up a few days ago, and I bawled like a baby when they showed it to me.  It bordered on being one of those “ugly” cries, but fortunately, I was the only customer in the store at the time.  Once again, they were just so nice and understanding about the whole process, and it is a true pleasure to do business with great folks such as these.  This will not be a ring that I will wear every day, for sure, but I will certainly love wearing it when I decide to do so.

The jeweler also gave a me a free appraisal of the ring for insurance purposes.  I traded-in the gold from the two existing rings and purchased the birthstones new.  The gold trade-in also helped to defray the cost of the ring just a bit.  I asked him about using the existing gold in the new ring, but he said that he much preferred to use new gold instead.  I’m glad that he talked me into that, as I just truly love the look of this ring, and even the design of it is special to me, as if my mother and I “have our arms” around both of the kids.

So, there you have it – my special ring at long last.  I just wish my mother could see it, too.

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Summer Catch-up

I appreciate those of you that have messaged me about my little “time-out” here, and everything is fine, actually quite good these days.  Since I’ve taken such a long break, this will be a fairly lengthy update, while I’m in the mood to catch up here again. ;-)

RV Travel Resuming Soon

We have taken a long break from travel this summer, or at least I have.  Hubby is no longer managing two departments at work, so it was time for him to catch up on his business travels, which he has done all summer long.  He recently made another trip to India, as well as various states in the US, as usual.  As summer draws to a close and kids now return to school, we will resume our RV travels on Labor Day weekend, and I’m quite ready to hit the road again!  We have not been out in the RV since April, making this the longest single stretch that we have been away from it since we started four years ago.  We are going boondocking in New Mexico before the national forest campgrounds shut down for the year, something we have not done in some time.

Hubby recently got a CPAP machine to use at night, so we purchased a good inverter and tested it for seven hours on the house batteries of the RV, turning off the heating element, and it barely even brought the battery level down.  That is great news, for sure, as he really needs to use it overnight now to help him breathe.  On most RV trips, we usually have shore power, but we will need to run it off of the battery for our upcoming trip next week.

Home Improvements

2015-06-10 20.35.33We usually attempt some home projects in the summer months, and this year, our home projects have mostly been related to our kitchen.  First, we bought a new refrigerator with a bottom freezer, which we love.  Next, we completely emptied and painted our laundry room, got rid of the extra refrigerator that we no longer need, and bought new shelving to have more storage, mainly for smaller appliances.  I also moved our Keurig “coffee bar” to that room, which freed up more room in our breakfast room.

After we finished in the laundry room, I embarked on a fairly lengthy search in person and online for a new dining table for the breakfast room.  However, I actually found a matching set of tables for both the kitchen and breakfast room, which made me very happy, especially when the cost for both was less than we planned to spend on just the breakfast room furniture.

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Hubby also built a custom “double doggie diner” for the dogs, and it can be seen in this photo.  It is such a cute piece, and it saves a lot of room in the breakfast room, as compared to having two separate feeding stations for the dogs.

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After we got the furniture in place, I spent quite a bit of time just cleaning out cabinets, lemon-oiling and scrubbing the floor by hand.  We gave some thought to replacing the floor in our kitchen areas, but honestly, we are already tired of home improvement projects for this summer and just don’t want to deal with it this year.  So, we will wait on that update for a later time when we are finally ready to do it.

Walk, Walk, Walk!

2015-06-24 23.27.53Back in June, I also bought a Fitbit Charge HR, and since that day, I have walked at least 10,000 steps each day, usually in the morning and early afternoon.  A few days ago, I got a notification from Fitbit that I had walked 500 miles since June 9, too.  The Fitbit folks provide some nice support and incentives to keep walking, even as I know these are simply automated messages.  Honestly, this is not a lot of walking for me, and on most days, it is no problem whatsoever.  One day early on, I really focused on walking for much of that day, and I hit 35,000 steps that day.  Most days, I manage between 11,000 and 15,000 steps when I add a 30-45 minute walking session to my regular daily steps.


This has now become a daily routine for me, even though I’ve had to do most of my walking indoors at various places this summer due to the heat.  I like the heart rate monitor in the Fitbit, and my heart rate during the day and at rest is consistently very good.  My initial goal was to focus on walking with the Fitbit through the summer months, which I have now done.  I’m planning to continue with this plan for the fall months, too.  I’ve already walked 1.2 million steps, so I’ll see how long it takes to hit 2 million!

A Quick Trip to Escape the Heat

The only time we’ve ventured out-of-town this summer was a quick, one-night trip to Ruidoso.  The heat here at home was going to be pretty brutal that weekend, so that Saturday morning, Hubby went online and found a nice hotel that was also pet-friendly.  An hour later, we loaded up the dogs and left for the cool mountains of New Mexico.


A pretty walking trail in the Lincoln National Forest at Ruidoso

We have spent so much time in this area over the past forty years, and it is always good to return to this little area that feels like “home away from home.”  Unfortunately, there are really no great places to take the RV in this particular area, since all of the forest area is national forest land with few, if any, forest campgrounds that are RV friendly.  The best RV options are privately owned RV parks that are pretty tight and located mostly in town.  Several are nice enough but are really just not what we want when going out in the RV.  If anyone ever needs a recommendation for one, though, I can help.  We have checked them all out now.

New Pickup

We have not owned a pickup for several years now, and we finally found a cute little red Chevy S10 LS that was in great shape.  We bought it on Monday, and we will be glad to have a pickup for a third vehicle to use when we need it.  I’m learning to drive a stick-shift all over again, too.  We will no longer need to call a friend or relative when we need to haul something, which will be so nice.

Windows 10

A few days ago, I installed my free upgrade to Windows 10 on my laptop, and I am so, so glad to be rid of Windows 8.  That annoying window that would always slide in from the right is finally gone!  Oh happy day!  So far, I like Windows 10 just fine, and I’m glad that the start menu is back again, too.

Student and Teacher

Lately, my personal projects have not been related to home improvement, but rather to studying and teaching photography.  Yes, teaching!  I think I mentioned here earlier that I felt a strong desire to get back into photography again, and this has taken on several fun new aspects, including one that I never could have anticipated a few months ago.  I also had the opportunity to take a good photography class over two days in July for the very first time.  While most of it was just review, I took away a few points that were new, as well as seeing a great way to present photography to someone for the first time, too.  The instructor was a professional photographer with over thirty years of experience, and he definitely knows his craft.  It was fascinating to be a part of his class, and fortunately, I can contact him anytime when I have questions going forward, too.

While I have been studying my new camera and much more related to photography in depth, an opportunity to help some other ladies learn photography for the first time came my way, via a personal friend that lives in another city.  In mid-July, she asked if I would help her learn photography and her new DSLR camera and even offered to pay me to travel to her city to do classes.  I shared that I did not have a curriculum to work from right now, and I honestly tried to find someone in her area that taught photography to non-college students.  There were no options available, as is often the case, unfortunately.  So, after talking with her a bit, I suggested that we try a “secret” group on Facebook to learn some of the basics, and we agreed to each invite some of our own friends to be a part of the group to make it more engaging.  Within the first five days, we had over 30 ladies sign up to be in the group, so I shut off membership at that point, as I wanted to keep the group manageable.

I have thought and prayed about this particular endeavor every day since then.  I have been humbled by a need that so many have to take better pictures of their loved ones and their lives in general, and I am actually writing a beginning photography curriculum that is geared to hobby photographers who are new to using a DSLR camera.  For so many people, there is no good way to learn to use a DSLR camera and photography in general, unless the person is motivated to read books, regularly search for good articles online, and be disciplined to try the exercises mentioned in those articles.  Even this approach can be problematic, though, as often a person new to photography doesn’t even know where to begin, much less what to specifically search for.  Interactive classes for people like us basically just do not exist.

Honestly, I think it is hard to find a book that presents beginning photography in plain language.  Too many people believe that operating a DSLR camera is just too complicated, and I would love to help a few of them see the error in that thinking.  Just because something is new doesn’t automatically make it hard to understand.  It has taken me *way too long* to learn photography and how to use my camera to the fullest extent, and I hope to save a few others from some of that grief as I can.  It is just one way I can give to others these days.

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I am enjoying the new Canon T5i and image stabilized lenses.

The format of the Facebook group is not ideal, unfortunately, and only a handful of ladies that initially joined the group are still checking in, but it is also hard to know that for sure, too.  This is a common thing with groups on Facebook, but for now, we will stick with this format for the ones that are still checking in and being active there.  I am considering following up with some in-person classes for some in the group, once we’ve gone through the basics there.  I think that will make our in-person time together much more productive, too.  Different ladies have different goals for their photography, and several just want to be able to take better photos of their kids and grandkids, which is fine.  Hopefully they will learn to do that and more as they participate in the group.

Once the curriculum is written, I will give more thought and prayer as to exactly what to do with it going forward, if anything.  That is not even on my radar at this point to be honest.

For me personally, I feel that my own photography has truly improved over the past few weeks and months as I have studied and applied what I’ve learned more and more.  Honestly, the new camera and image stabilized lenses have helped.  The T5i is just easier to operate than my previous camera.  I’m really honing in on my own problem areas, and I’m quite determined to make some good progress quickly.  I’m also spending some time really dialing into studying the photography of Ansel Adams and would love to explore this style myself a bit more at some point.  I recently saw a great exhibit of 100 of his original photos, and it really stirred something in me to explore this style further and learn even more about this man and his photography.

I’m also focusing on learning more about Photoshop, while maintaining my goal of shooting the best quality photos I can right in the camera.  I think I’ve made some great strides toward that goal, too.  I upgraded to Photoshop Elements 13, and as usual, I like each new upgrade better than the one I previously used.  I’ve also used Camera Raw for a while, but I want to learn even more about the features available in it, too.

So, in summary, I’ve just been focusing quite intently on my photography over the past few weeks, once we got done with our home improvement projects.  That pretty much sums up the past couple of months.  I still want to share more about our fabulous Hawaii trip at some point, too.  But for now, it’s time to study and teach for a while and finally return to RV travel after a long, hot summer!

Also, for those RV friends that are planning to head back to Texas and other areas in the south this winter, have you seen the predictions for “Godzilla El Nino?” This seems to be pretty consistent among the various weather forecasters, even if they differ on just how strong it will be.  Late fall and winter will likely be colder with more rain than usual.  We need it, and I’m ready for it.  For the rest of you, just come prepared, and please be happy for us if it comes. ;-)

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Wordless Wednesday – A Fabulous 4th





















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Wordless Wednesday – Shelf Cloud




 I recommend clicking on these images to see them larger!

(My post yesterday never showed up in the feed.  In case you missed it, check out Beautiful Kapalua!)

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Beautiful Kapalua

 In my previous post, I shared about our nice condo in Maui on our trip back in May, and one of the aspects that made this particular condo experience one of our nicest ones to date was beautiful Kapalua resort itself, where our condo was located.

Kapalua Logo Sign

Kapalua logo sign

Kapalua is the last resort area in the northwest corner of Maui, past the popular Kaanapali and Kahana resort areas.  While those last two areas are more densely populated, Kapalua is further out and away from most of the heavier traffic, and it also sits in one of the prettiest areas of any of the Hawaiian islands we’ve visited.  Various sites and places in Kapalua have won awards for quality, and we understand why now.  Kapalua is a special place of conservation and preservation, not just a tourist destination.  The Pu’u Kukui Preserve at Kapalua is one of the largest nature preserves in Hawaii, and unfortunately, we did not make it there on our trip.

Kapalua Resort Cook Pines

Beautiful Cook pine trees line the entrance at Kapalua resort with the Bay Course on the right

Kapalua Cook Pines

More Cook Pines

Kapalua Villas

Ridge Villas at Kapalua

Kapalua has so much to offer, including truly fabulous beaches, beautiful natural scenery and amazing landscaping, golf courses, two luxury hotels and condos/villas in two different locations – Kapalua Accommodations, good restaurants in varying price ranges in both the resort and the hotels, a nice store for groceries and souvenirs, concierge services, a free resort shuttle and a more upscale store for clothing and other items.  There are also a couple of small churches, including one that was quite picturesque on Mother’s Day morning.

Kapalua Church

Scenic church at Kapalua on Mother’s Day morning

While other resort areas on the island have activity until well after dark, Kapalua is more peaceful and quiet, since most everything shuts down early in the evening, except the nicer restaurants.  I should mention that the five-hour time difference from home, for us, was actually a great thing.  While we adapted a bit to the time change, we had no problem getting up early in the mornings, relatively speaking, which enabled us to have the entire day without feeling like we actually got up early.  Coming home?  Well, that was a different story as far as jet lag!

Beaches of Kapalua

We visited the three beaches in at Kapalua for the first time, D. T. Fleming Beach, Oneloa Bay and Kapalua Bay, and on a previous trip, we also went snorkeling at nearby Honolua Bay with friends.  Honolua Bay is just north of the resort area and is a little harder to access, but it is a gorgeous place.  Honolua Bay and Mokule‘ia Bay, both Hawaii State Marine Life Conservation Districts, are amazing places and with ancient lava formations, coral formations and great marine life.  It is a must see place, in my opinion, but on this trip, we opted to see new beaches and forego snorkeling.   We also visited Napili Beach on this most recent trip, which is not far from Kapalua Bay and is very nice.

We chose D. T. Fleming Beach for our one afternoon at the beach during our trip, and we had so much fun playing in the waves there.  It was nice to also have big shade trees, picnic tables and public restroom facilities nearby there.  If we return to Maui sometime, we will try to spend more time Kapalua Bay, if possible.  Oneloa Beach is a bit rough for swimming with no life guard on duty, but it is amazingly beautiful with its beautiful protected sand dunes.  We had a great view of Oneloa Bay from our condo, too.

All beaches in Hawaii are public beaches, even the beaches that front the nicest hotels, and we liked the beaches at Kapalua better than any other beaches we visited on our previous trips to Maui.

D. T. Fleming Beach

D. T. Fleming Beach, near the Ritz Carlton Hotel

D. T. Fleming Beach Park

Pretty public park at D. T. Fleming Beach

D. T. Fleming Beach

Scenic spot at D. T. Fleming Beach with beautiful pine trees

Oneloa Bay

Scenic Oneloa Bay

Oneloa Bay with Lanai in the distance

Oneloa Bay with Lanai in the distance. Note the beautiful sand dunes here.

Kapala Oneloa Beach

Natural Beauty at Oneloa Beach

Kapalua Bay

Kapalua Bay, America’s Best Beach in 1991 – the Montage Hotel is also nearby

Napili Beach

Napili Beach, next to Kapalua Bay and just outside the Kapalua resort

Kapalua Golf Courses

The two golf courses at Kapalua, the Bay Course and the Plantation Course, are amazingly beautiful, and the Plantation Course is a PGA course where the Hyundai Tournament of Champions is played.  But not only are these courses beautiful, they are both certified sanctuaries by Audubon International, “protecting 23 species of birds and helping preserve native plants and habitats,” according to  The tall Cook pine trees lined most all of the courses in both locations and are quite a sight to see.

Kapalua Bay Course at Pineapple Grill

Our view of the Bay Course at Pineapple Grill on Mother’s Day morning

Kapalua Bay Course

The Bay Course on Hubby’s golf day

Kapalua PGA Plantation Course

Our view of the PGA Plantation Course during dinner at the Plantation House one evening

Kapalua Plantation Course

Plantation Course

I’ve opted to share about the Kapalua Coastal Trail in a separate post soon, as it was a great hike along the ocean.  It is not your typical hike, and we truly enjoyed hiking the entire trail twice during our stay.

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